My First Wedding Nightmare

Yup. Last night. I'm still tired from spinning in circles the entire dream. We've been faced with our first stressful engagement decision, and have been struggling with it for the last week.

Basically, in my dream my mom, my future mother-in-law, and my Matt had decided that the wedding process would be so much easier if they planned it all, and let me just experience it....not a bad idea....anyway. I had agreed, and thought since I already had my dress, they could do anything else they wanted.

Well, the wedding day came and nothing was planned. They all thought just 'swinging-it' would be fun! I freaked out and became a hysterical bride-zilla, rampaging Macy's for perfume, shoes and a suit for Matt...stealing flowers from the farmers market only to run away while the flowers fell apart....running into whole foods only to discover they were putting away the flowers for the night and nothing but aloe vera was left for me to make arrangements....crying and hitting my Matt because he was wearing blue jeans and a tucked in button down shirt....can't you at least wear a tie! who told you that looked good! who tucks in a button down shirt into blue jeans! I screamed. woah. wake-up. please.

So deep down I might be a control freak. Well, maybe it's not that deep down. And maybe my parents told me I need to elope so I don't have a major melt down on our wedding day out of 'production stress' And maybe they are right.

So, keeping in mind that we want to spend as little as possible on our wedding, and keeping in mind that our(my) family is H-U-G-E, I've come up with an idea. And one that might just make everyone happy.

So here it is:

We have our wedding ceremony and reception here on the East Coast, at the very place I've always envisioned us getting married. A beautiful garden on a historic home site. We have 30 or fewer guests and a beautifully catered plated dinner on a long table on a separate part of the grounds. Not sure what we'd do after...but maybe nothing...maybe we'd just have a later ceremony and a slow food dinner that lasted until 10:00.

We'd spend lots of one on one time with our family and (hopefully) have a hell of a lot less stress than entertaining 100+ people .

then:

A few weeks later, we'd travel to my home in the midwest and have the barn dance we were thinking of having, with all of our family invited, with light food, pie and kegged beer (made by our dear friend). It would be a party, and I could spend all day getting the barn ready without worrying about the production of a 'wedding day'. We'd still hire the Irish Fiddle Band, and have a casual fun party where everyone is invited!

I think it could work! What do you think?