Wedding Decisions

So my fiancee and I are between a rock and a hard place.

We've been engaged for about two months, and that engagement buzz is slowly fading into a small hangover. One that is fixed with some ibuprofen, but still.

Here's our dilemma. We don't know what we want. Or rather, I don't know what I want for a wedding, and he is happy with most anything.

Option number one:

We have a large wedding (150 invited, 90 of them being family) on my parents land in the Midwest, where most of them live. We do the whole beautiful DIY/wedding blog inspired ordeal complete with a ceremony in a meadow by a field, a picnic reception with homemade blankets and a barn dance with an Irish fiddle band.

It would be beautiful, but since the vendor options are very limited in the area they live, and since I am an artist, we would do most of the wedding ourselves and it would definitely be a stressful production.

Option number two:

We have a very small wedding (30 people or less) of just our parents, grandparents, siblings and best friends here on the East Coast where we currently live. We would have a garden ceremony and very nice catered french dinner on a long table in a field.

It would also be beautiful, and we'd get to use better vendors because we have a much smaller guest list and the resources are better out here. We'd also have much less stress because we would share our day with less people. We also might be letting some people down with this.

What to do! We are stuck. Both options have their downsides. And both have their ups.

Either way, I need to focus on how my body looks, so at least that's non-negotiable. And, if we went with the second option, I'd have many more wedding related gatherings to also look smashing - - - hence ALWAYS keeping my goal in mind and not letting it slip away!

What do you think? What has been important in your planning process? If you're already married, was it worth it to put forth the 'traditional' large wedding plans to make the twelve hours you call your wedding day?